Monday, October 27, 2008

Respect the uniqness plz!!

Few notions have been lingering in my mind for the past three weeks or rather i should say a series of events seeded these concerns of mine.
Whenever we meet a person, be it an acquaintance or somebody we are meeting for the first time,packets of remarks are dispersed in our intellect."She looks ill","That color doesn't look nice on him","Here she comes,I don't wanna face her" etc.These comments either flash for a microsecond and disappear or lead to some more casual remarks,depending upon our environment.At times we even articulate these remarks but that depends on the level of intimacy we share with that person.

In our society there are certain conventions regarding the behavior and personality of a person.If somebody talks too much we are like "He's a pain in the a**,a complete nuisance!!" and on the other hand if we come across somebody who's reclusive we go like "Uff,he's so quiet.He always bores me to death!!".What makes us think like this?Just because the other person is different from the usual guy/gal you bump into everyday,you kind of label him into another category?This categorization infuriates me and more so when somebody advices "change".

I marvel at the permutations in the personality traits of each individual.So there has to be extremes at both the ends of this spectrum.Each one of us unique in some way or the other and i think we need to acknowledge that individuality rather than imposing our beliefs.I think these beliefs have been embedded in our sub conscious minds and they somehow influence the way we think.

In the last few days there has been a sudden surge in the number of people calling me "reclusive,introverted etc.".Initially i didn't mind these because I am not ashamed of being one but when you get to hear these every second day you tend to loose it.On top of it there's this advice to "change".That hits my nerves.I mean this is not some kind of disease that one needs to get rid of.Why don't people let the other person be the way he/she is?This reaction of mine might be immature but i had to pour it out.A well wisher told me my "ajna" thing is completely blocked and i need 'to take it easy!!'.Guess what! now I'm feeling lighter.Writing always works like medicine for me.But now,i am a getting a feeling that whatever I've written is all bull shit but that is not my concern(its the reader's!!).

In the past twenty years of my life I've had people who have taken undue advantage of my introverted disposition.I've been taken for granted and back stabbed.At a time i had nobody whom i could trust and actually call a real 'friend'.I am sure I'll come across more of such experiences in future and hopefully I'll handle those in a dignified manner.

As a society we have progressed tremendously.There are talks of landing on moon by 2020 but our minds are still clinging onto stereotypes.Just look at the way our government has brushed up the issue of legalizing homosexuality by declaring it as a disease.Couples in live-in relationships still find it hard to rent an apartment in a metropolitan city like Delhi.Noses were turned up even in an institution like St. Stephens at the proposal of a co-ed hostel.There are several India's existing in our India and i wonder when these India's shall unite.


viksy said...

Monica..."i srlsi respect ur uniqueness"
infct..i admire it. n m wid u in dis dat a persn,watevr he/she is, is unique...n dat prsn doesnt need 2 chng. n m shockd at d fact dat ppl take undue advantage f dis...
by d way,i tried 2 suppres actual vikas in me in d frst yr,dnt knw y. bt vn i saw u,tokd 2 u, i thot i shud do watevr i wan,i shud b watevr i m,y d hel shud i chng jst coz a bunch f ppl dnt lyk my trueself...i srlsi thnk u a lot fr dis.u r a great inspiratn fr me.
n dnt u dare CHANGE urslf,u r a great prsn.....jst njoi lyf watevr way u feel lyk

Parul said...

Quiet an "Eye-opener" monica.. what I personally feel is dat u r not an introvert but u take time to open up & dat id say is ur uniqueness. But at least speak for urself so that people dnt take unnecessary advantage. I totally admire u as a person, n dnt feel dat ne change is required. Those who dnt knw u its dere problem. On a lighter note had it not been for u(given u r such a patient nd silent listener) who wud i pour my heart out to.. ;)
So swthrt no scope for any change,
just STAY AS YOU ARE!! nd enjoy every moment[Period]

sobhit said...

knw wot my frnd... no person in d world gona b perfect, al got der flaws... u ask me am ready 4 hundreds f recarnations 2b sm1 like u,getin 2knw a person takes a lot in u n bttr still ovrlook der flaws n appreciate 4d guds in dem now am knwn 4 d fact dat i only critisize n say hard comments...i say dis in all sincerity..
till date der r only few ppl wid d amt of poise n dignity.. n only if i had bttr vocab... nehw d amt f respct u command wid d way u r ,not mani ppl can,now am not blabberin or jst typin randomly.. wel it takes effort 2 key in words,n knowin me u knw its not easy 4 me, but am doin dis cos i genuinly mean 2 say all dis
U NEVER HV 2 CHANGE ur r d best d way u r, a true rock star n a gr8 soul, so dnt tk me worng, evry word i type here makes sense
knw wot if i cud tk d liberty f sayin dis wich i will, v guys r d lucky few who actually got 2 cum across a wonderful person like u in our lifetimes, d world wud b a much bttr place wid ppl like u my frnd.... so nvr evr thnk bout ppl woh myt call u introvert or borin n all....dey jst say dis cos dey aint got balls 2 stand up2 sm1 so dignified like u,ammm ok i'll stop here cos i dnt wan2 go ovr d edge. u keep bloggin n as d othr 2 said here keep njoyin ur life 2d fullest, ur thots n d power d speech dat u hv it can evn mk fools like n arnd me 2 improve a lil :P n i say so in al sincerity .... tk cr n god bless